Why Women Easily Romp With Random Men But Play Hard For Men They Admire

At least twice, Mark (not his real name) has painfully and unwillingly let go women dear to his life and whom he believed would be the best mother to his children over unforgivable women’s tactics to men chasing on them and whom they (women) have something for.
The 27-year-old civil engineering graduate of a local university who believed that ‘hard-to-get’ women are the ideal ones, reveals how a woman he fell in love with back in college played hard to get on him when it came to bed matters but could willingly and regularly give in to quest of other random men she had no plans of dating.
Mark says after he professed his love to the charming lady during a college dinner, when both were in their third year of study, the lady intentionally started playing hard probably to create the ‘innocent lady’ impression making it really difficult for them to have intimacy.
This, according to Mark, is after she exhibited signs of willingness to date him although he had not developed interest in her.“Before I could develop a thing for her, she would do suggestive stuff.” But this changed immediately I told her my intentions to date her,” says Mark deep in thoughts.
This ‘hard-to-get’ trait created by the lady, however, made the young man believe she was the right woman for him in this Mpango Wa Kando era. Presumably, it would be hard for another man to seduce her when she is in a relationship.What he did not know was that her woman could regularly romp with random guys to satisfy her sexual desires while keeping his Mr Right sexually starved.
“I could not believe how a woman who confesses to love me could play hard when it came to making love but could have sex with other men she had no intentions of dating,” pronounces Mark with lots of pain.
Like any other man who trusts his woman, Mark paid little attention to rumours which were doing rounds on campus about her lady having horizontal gymnastic with other men until he confirmed it.
“Initially I disregarded what some of my friends were telling me about her fooling around with one of my friends until I read their text chats. It ended there and then,” confirms Mark.
His relationship woes did not end there. He developed interests in another college student, a staunch Christian Union (CU) member in this case.
It did not last as it became known to him that the born-again lady was romping with her Bible study group leader. What infuriated him was the fact that the lady could not accept they share bed saying it was only allowed among married men.
“We could not even share bed as she could tell me we were yet to marry. So when I learnt she was being bedded by another CU man I said no to professing my love to a lady. I would rather start a relationship through the no-strings attached one and if things go well date her,” discloses the disappointed Mark
            According to Jane (not her real name), a fourth year university student in Nairobi, men prefer dating women who prove hard to get and undermine who gives in easily.
She says she did, to his boyfriend of three years now, exactly what Mark went through despite her knowing pretty well he was the man he would like to date.
Jane says when she joined college, she had many men chasing on her but identified one whom she says had qualities a lady would look in a man.
Shockingly, she reveals having sex with two men in the list knowing pretty well that she had nothing for them but ensured the man she loved was kept at bay just to create the ‘hard-to-get’ impression before ultimately giving in.“I did not have sex with him even after deciding he was the right man for me. I could let him come for a sleep-over in my room but made sure we did not have sex by telling my roommate in advance not to leave the room among other tactics,” says Jane with a broad smile.
She could however have sex with other men in campus without his man knowing.
“I could not withstand the sexual desires for all that long therefore ended up having sex with other men, two among them those who were chasing on me,” confesses Jane.
Jane who plans to marry the man says giving in to a man’s sexual quest, especially the ones you are planning to date, in the first days is detrimental.
“If you easily give in to a man’s sexual quest he will definitely flee for another woman since he will view you as cheap and probably start imagining how many men you have given in to their quest,” she says.She however says one must be smart with her cards to create the hard-to-get impression and also not to lose the man noting that some men cannot wait for long.
That is not all. Ken, another university student in Nairobi shockingly reveals how she stayed with a lady he claims had given in to his proposal to date in his hostel room for three weeks.
The duo could sleep in the same bed and could do other stuff together but surprisingly the lady created a boundary just to ensure they had no sex.
According to Ken, he had no issue with them not having sex but was offended by the audacity of the lady to refuse any attempt by him to touch her when in bed.
“I had no issue with her refusal for us to have sex since she could give me some convincing reasons and also we had not ‘dated’ for long.
But when she could not allow me even to touch her body it hit on me,” reveals Ken.
Ken noted that the lady would behave suggestively with him when they are in company of his friends but could not entertain the same when they were alone confessing that he has since not understood why she could do that. 

                     Ken called it quit when he learnt that her lover-to-be was occasionally having sex in a no-strings attached relationship (famously known as fuck-mates in varsities) with not less than two men in the institution but could not let him romp with her.
For James, a primary school teacher, it almost ended tragic. His woman who was by then still a student in Eldoret could not let it happen.
She could invite him to his hostel room but played hard to the man.
One of his visits however turned bad when he could not buy her excuses anymore and tried to force it making the woman to scream attracting fellow students.
It took the intervention of the institution’s student leaders to conceal the incident to save the man from possible charges.
                 According to James Kinyua, a psychologist, it all boils down with how you carry out yourself during the first interaction with the woman.He says a man should always remain in control when with the woman adding that the moment you let the woman carry the day during your first date she will remain to dictate what you do as a couple, including when to have your first sex.
“Women want men who stamp authority and the moment you do everything as dictated by her that is when she will go romp with other men but continue playing to you hard,” says James.
He says no woman would refuse to make love with a man they love but at the same time will try to make the man believe she is not cheap. He adds, “It is upon the man to creatively bring her to moods without her feeling being termed cheap by the same man.”